HOW TO LISTEN EFFECTIVELY SLIDES
Many people think listening is easy. Perhaps this is true because you have confused the physical act of hearing, with the more complex process of listening.
Although many have spent a lifetime hearing people speak, few have learned the skill of listening. It is not a passive, but an active skill that must be learned and practiced.
In addition, you must have purpose a goal beforehand, just as in any communication task.
You hear with your ears, but listening involves your intellectual, psychological and physical powers.
Managers spend about 40 percent of their workday listening , but a
Listening errors and inefficient techniques cause workplace injuries, management/subordinate disagreements, employee problems, mistakes in filling customers’ requests and even cancellations of contracts.
EFFECTIVE LISTENING & BARRIERS
Because the effective listener works to receive complete information, he saves time since the job is done correctly the first time; helps to see if people understand information or not because questions and comments are encouraged; and, creates a cooperative and productive work environment because workers’ ideas and problems are listened to fully and correctly.
These benefits are so important that major multinational corporation such as General Motors, AT&T and others have invested million of dollars and thousands of hours in listening training for their managers and employees. In fact, when I consulted for AT&T and Duracell Battery in the late 1980s, attendance at the listening seminars was mandatory for managers and their assistants.
There are 3 major categories of barriers:
1) Physical. External barriers at the office may be the noise from computers, telephones, talking employees, street traffic or other physical distractions such as a boring speaker or an uncomfortable room that prevent you from listening properly.
2) Emotional. Examples of internal barriers are poor health, empty stomach, and tiredness which prevent the person from concentrating fully on what is being said.
3) Psychological. This category includes biases, cultural differences, lack of interest or motivation to concentrate, along with boredom.
In this category, the most damaging internal factor is our own brain. Scientific research shows that we can think about four times faster than we can speak, which adds up to about 125 spoken words to every 500 we think. [see # 9 below]
125 spoken words to every 500 we can think
So, as our brain becomes bored with the slowness of the spoken word, it is easy to understand why our minds wander to other subjects during a conversation, speech or lecture.
9 TACTICS TO MORE EFFECTIVE LISTENING
These problems are complex, but don’t despair. You can learn to modify your approach to listening and become more effective by practicing the following nine tactics.
1) Listening for things you can use.
You always can learn something from what is being said. Ask yourself:
“What can I use?” “What is important for me?” Then, identify the main
and supporting points. Finally summarize the entire message.
2) Judge the message, not the messenger.
His physical appearance, nationality or accent should not influence your opinion.
This is easier said than done, but you must try your best.
3) Listen for the feelings behind the facts.
Listen for the emotional content of his message. Sometimes the way he says something means more than the words he uses.
4) Wait until the speaker finishes.
Do not formulate or “pre-plan” your response, especially when you feel you
disagree. Listen completely, or you may miss the full meaning as you think about your great response. You may also find the speaker saying to you “That’s what I
just said! Weren’t you listening to me?”
5) Resist Psychological Barriers.
Avoid wandering and letting daydreaming, as you have not filtered out from your mind the problems in tips 2 and 4 above.
3 Barriers to Listening
Preplanning – thinking of your response while the
other person is talking.
Wandering – when you hear a word and that makes
your mind “wander” to the memory or event related
to that word. This is usually involuntary.
Daydreaming – This is voluntary. For some reason,
you do not want to listen so you “dream” about another
subject or event without sleeping.
6) Resist physical distractions.
Sounds, people and office environment can disrupt listening. Find quiet area.
Pick a free, relaxed time so you can concentrate on the message. Avoid trying to listening to someone in your office while you talk on the telephone or you are being
interrupted by other people. You will not be able to listen – we can only do one
thing at a time properly and fully.
7) Take notes and ask questions.
Take written notes, if possible, but do not write every word of the speaker. Instead,
outline. Later, summarize and fill in details. Asking appropriate questions helps to
fully understand instructions, new information or complex, technical ideas.
8) Exercise your mind.
Concentrate on the main points, then summarize them. Try to visualize or imagine the situation in your mind. Connect the message with a related, personal experience and you will remember the information better and longer. Although difficult at first, these will become easier after time.
9) Be Aware, to Avoid
People can think up to four times faster than the average person speaks. So, the
effective listener should BE AWARE that his mind can work against his effective listening.
If you are aware of this fact, then you can avoid pre-planning, wandering and daydreaming.